We have a two-year-old. My wife, Erika, a choir teacher, works days, while I, an engineer, work when she is home in the evenings. Unfortunately, everyone wants to do everything in the evenings. Parties, dinners, birthdays, briss, the list goes on. We're not Jewish.
Taking on the responsibility of raising my son during the days, although very rewarding, really leaves no room for personal ambition. In the evenings, I find myself at the mercy of social and family obligation, and what suffers is my work, my ambition. Time and again it is pushed aside, residing on the botom of our life's list of priorities.
This Friday is "Date Night". We have rescheduled and rescheduled and rescheduled, meanwhile, I am behind on my deadlines. Where do we give? What to we give? I know the answer.
The bottom line is: having a family means diminishing your ambition and settling for "the best you can". Its a cold fish to swallow. Is that a saying?
Maybe all new parents go thru this, maybe I'm just complaining.
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